Demi Lovato has opened up about her sexuality in a new interview, chatting about coming to terms with identifying as pansexual and how her religious upbringing caused her to be “super closeted off” for years.
The 28-year-old singer talked about her sexuality on The Joe Rogan Experience podcast over the weekend and said she believes the shame she felt about her sexuality is part of the reason why she’s “so fluid” now.
“I’m so fluid now, and a part of the reason why I am so fluid is because I was super closeted off,” she said.
Demi also told Rogan that she finds she’s attracted to “anything, really”, and accepted that the term ‘pansexual’ is something that fits her and her sexual fluidity.
The topic came up as the pair were chatting about Demi’s future plans and whether she wanted to start a family, which got her talking about her short-lived engagement to Max Ehrich in 2020.
“I think if anything, I want to adopt more than anything,” she said.
“I was engaged to a man last year, I totally thought that I’d be married – maybe pregnant – by now, and that’s not the case. So I’ve just stopped attaching myself to – I know that my life is not going to my plan.
“Life doesn’t go according to any plan. So I could sit here and say ‘yes I would love to have children’, but I don’t know because that might change next week. I think in this moment, I want to adopt, for sure.
“I also don’t know if I’m going to end up with a guy, so I can’t really see myself maybe even getting pregnant.”
After laughing through Joe Rogan quipping about the term pansexual like some ancient grug (“there’s a new word for everything now!”), Demi said she’d fallen in love with the term “alphabet mafia” to describe the LGBTQIA+ community.
“I was like, that’s it. That’s what I’m going with that,” she said.
“I’m a part of the Alphabet Mafia and proud.”
Joe followed up with a loaded question and asked when Demi realised she was “whatever you wanna call it” (it’s pansexual, Joe, keep up), and Demi replied that she had a sexual awakening to Sarah Michelle Gellar and Selma Blair‘s kissing scene in Cruel Intentions when she was a kid.
“I was like ‘Oh, I like that’, but I felt a lot of shame,” she said.
“Because growing up in Texas as a Christian, that’s very frowned upon. So any attraction that I ever had to a female at a young age, I shut it down before I let myself process what I was feeling.”