Oh, good! Just when we thought 2018 was going to be the year we’d really get our shit together re: interpersonal insecurities, here’s another totally manufactured bit of pop-psychology to give you the romantic willies: MICRO-CHEATING.
Because some people love nothing more than to incite epidemics of intimate partner side-eye, Australian psychologist Melanie Schilling has given an interview to the Daily Mail describing the novel concept of micro-cheating – small, apparently trivial actions that supposedly demonstrate that your attentions lie outside of your relationship.
You might be engaging in micro-cheating if you secretly connect with another person on social media, if you share private jokes, if you downplay the seriousness of your relationship to your partner or if you enter their name under a code in your phone,
These are all signs that you are conducting a “covert flirtation” and keeping it from your partner. If you feel you have something to hide – ask yourself why.
Ah yes, the absolute red flag of infidelity that is having a running joke with someone (gasp!) other than your partner. Put us in jail, we have been sprung.
While the definition of micro-cheating seems to have a lot of overlap with the slippery (and widely accepted) concept of the “emotional affair”, a lot of people just… are not having it.
I am not down with this "micro cheating" conversation which, to me, is all about straight people deciding never to have meaningful connections with people outside of their gender out of fear they will replace feelings for an SO
— Casey Quinlan (@thatcaseyquin) January 11, 2018
Smiled at someone? Micro-cheating. Walked around in public un-blindfolded? Micro-cheating. Dreamt of seizing the means of production? Micro-chea https://t.co/80UB96P71e
— Mulder, the internet is not good for you (@mbarnett) January 11, 2018
As far as I can tell "micro-cheating" means having friends and/or colleagues? It's obviously all BS https://t.co/p6h1mwn0RJ
— Craig 'Lost Limey' Little (@lost_limey) January 11, 2018
"Ever sent your ex a message reminding them of good memory you share? Micro-cheating."
Or you just may be mature enough to be in a monogamous relationship and maintain a good relationship with your ex and treasure important memories. https://t.co/GXUChKVDtp
— Joe Zu / 上手 (@JoeZuEmpPenguin) January 11, 2018
having friends: micro-cheating
— erin the ultimate nope rat (@eehouls) January 11, 2018
"microcheating" is a stupid concept and you're ALLOWED to have meaningful friendships with people outside of your relationship. if your partner tells you otherwise, that! is! abuse!
— clowncipher wants you to please take his teef (@BLASTPROCESSlNG) January 11, 2018
micro-cheating is not a thing. you are all just dating shitty boys that disrespect you and the relationship. stop putting labels on fuckboys.
— carl cardashian (@RanaDelCarl) January 11, 2018
Truly, let us all in this brand new year commit to calling bullshit what it actually is. Micro-cheating. Honestly.
Source: Business Insider