Sam Cochrane and Tara Pavlovic‘s very public breakup after leaving Bachelor In Paradise loved-up has taken a concerning turn this week, with Sam speaking to Woman’s Day about physical and verbal abuse he claims Tara inflicted upon him during their relationship.
Since then, Tara has posted two Instagram Story pictures that allege Sam was emotionally abusive, while Sam himself has made another statement via his Instagram account.
I’ve woken up today wondering how I could have misjudged an individual so much. I never wanted to discuss the things I had experienced and wanted to move forward with my life. I put up two posts and never mentioned her name and never put her down. Just my sadness in what is now out in public. Ultimately I didn’t talk because I was embarrassed and ashamed at what had taken place but also because I thought I would always love her. So I allowed the horrible stuff just be a moment in time and try to move on myself. I allowed over two months of nastiness to continue after the break up but we had always promised to never go to the media. I ignored many, many requests to hear my side of the story but believed that the truth would be too damaging for someone that I ultimately loved and wished the best for. Then 5 days into me being in Bali she decided to talk about me, the relationship and painting an awful picture of me for the sake of money, branding and endorsements. I fought long and hard with the idea of shedding light on what I believe to be a very serious issue. There is never an excuse for what I’ve experienced and it was love that prevented me ever mentioning it. I did everything I could to keep these matters private. I wished her happiness and a good life and hoped she would learn. I had moved on and past it all. She had moved in with someone within days of us ending also, so one would assume that she would have no need to mention me again. Wrong. I am so shocked to learn from private messages the men that have gone through what I have. I plan on doing all I can to shed light on it and help both men and women. There is no excuse, no reason or way of justifying it. I hope this will be the last time I have to discuss her or the relationship. But I do plan on making a difference and doing what I can to make things better in anyway I can. I never wanted this and I only wish for peace. To people that choose to judge me, I accept it. I really wanted the perfect story but in life, there is always a lesson. Thank you for the words of support. I pray this is the end and that the ugliness can stop. If it doesn’t I have so much more to defend with. I don’t want that.❤️
Now, Tara is replying to comments on her own Instagram, giving her take on the events that occurred at their engagement party, at which Sam alleged Tara punched him.
The couple called it quits officially in June via Instagram, after getting engaged during the Bachelor In Paradise finale in late April.
If you are being abused, or know someone who is, please call Lifeline on 13 11 14. If you are in immediate danger, call 000.