Abbie Chatfield has opened up about being bullied by the other contestants on the set of The Bachelor, which is a massive shock considering she received the villain edit on the show.

Speaking on The Briefing podcast with host Jamila Rizvi, the two women talk about Abbie’s time on Bach and what was happening behind the scenes, which we didn’t see at all. According Abbie, she was crying every day due to “bullying” from the other girls. In fact, she said that her only friends were the crew. Oh god! It’s like when the kid who gets bullied at school befriends the teachers, yikes.

“When we were recording, I thought that I was going to be the sook, because I would cry every single day,” Abbie told Jamila.

“There were some voxies (short interviews) that we’d do where they had to stop recording ’cause I was sobbing that loudly.”

But as we know, on Matt Agnew‘s season of The Bachelor we didn’t get to see much of Abbie’s vulnerable side. Instead she was presented as a promiscuous she-demon who liked to step on other people’s toes.

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Abbie getting rejected by Matt at the final rose ceremony.

“I thought that I was going to be the sook and then when I was the, the villain, I was like, ‘But I was bullied!’ And I kind of I realised that it was because they had so much footage of all the girls hating me,” she said.

Abbie reckons that part of the reason she was labelled the “villain” was because of the “patriarchy.” A woman that is sexually liberated, is often demonised. But god, that trope is so tired. It’s very 2007 rom-com. The guy wants to fuck the hot but overly-sexual woman, but ends up choosing the dainty girl next door instead.

“Because I was sexual and confident, that made me a bad person. Not deserving of love, disingenuous…It’s like women can only be good at one thing,” she said.

It’s not the first time contestants on reality TV have received an edit that they were not expecting. I mean take this with a grain of salt, but Jamie Doran from Angie’s season of The Bachelorette has been very open about his edit that made him look like a massive creep. He even tried to sue Channel 10 over his ‘bad edit’.

At the end of the day, reality TV isn’t being shown in real time. So in a way, it is kind of like watching a fictional TV show. Each person needs a gimmick, like being promiscuous, being the good girl or in Jamie’s case the stage 5 clinger. That characteristic is then brought to life on TV, and we eat that shit up.

Listen to the full interview here.